Our dilemma this week is from Rebecca, who is tentatively wanting to put a profile up on an internet dating site, to see if she can meet that special someone.
She has a busy life and hardly has time to see her friends, let alone organise dates with different people.
She’s nervous about who she might meet online though – and wants to know whether it’s a good idea in the first place. That’s the first thing she wants advice on.
The second thing she wants advice on, is whether or not she should change her name if she does put her profile up.
She's afraid that she may be “discovered” by friends, colleagues or acquaintances if she uses her real name, as she most certainly does NOT want people to know that she’s looking for love online.
She’s thinking about changing her name for her profile, but is concerned that potential dates may feel deceived if she does so.
She’d tell them why she changed her name if they met for a date, but nonetheless she isn’t sure whether it’s the best way to kick off a potential new relationship.
• Is internet dating a good place to meet people?
• Is there a stigma attached to online dating? Or are Rebecca’s fears misplaced?
• Does it matter if you put a different name up to protect your identity until you actually meet up with a potential suitor?
• Have you had a good - or bad – experience dating via the internet?
Comments (2)
I'm not sure if you watch the show "Sea Patrol" on Mondays but 2 weeks ago there was an episode where 1 of the main characters had lied on her profile about who she was(saying she was in human resources rather than the navy), the person she met had done the same(saying he was an accountant when he was in the sas). When they met all went well until her date had heaps of phone calls that needed to be taken - ended up spending 30mins on the phone. She left in a state and then the next day they ended up meeting under business circumstances and it was awkward for them, when the navy boat was to transport the sas crew. She also had to explain to her captain the circumstances under which it happened which must have been hard. Now i know this is a tv show but it does illustrate some of what could happen.
I personally would not lie about my profile on the internet (as the truth will come out in the end and it may not be in the right circumstances) and would be very hesitant to use internet dating at all.
Posted by Andrew | May 3, 2008 2:20 PM
Posted on May 3, 2008 14:20
Hi. I live in Newcastle, NSW, and just love your show.
I Think that internet dating thing is dangerous. I would not use it myself.
Posted by Travis Freeman | April 21, 2008 10:33 PM
Posted on April 21, 2008 22:33