What do you do when you’re married - and you find yourself attracted to someone outside of the marriage?

Maybe it’s just a passing thought, or a casual glance, but you feel guilty because you are completely committed to your marriage.

That’s “Gary’s” dilemma.

He wants to know whether he should tell his wife that he has been attracted to woman at his work - whether it would be more or less damaging to the relationship to say something.

He loves his wife, and is committed to her.

He feels ashamed that was attracted to this woman, especially since he doesn’t have any feelings for her. He wants to have a completely open and honest relationship with his wife, but at the same time, he doesn’t want to hurt her unnecessarily, especially as nothing has come of it.

Where does one draw the line?

Do you confide something hurtful for the sake of honesty in a relationship?

Or is there a place for withholding information when it might do more damage than good?