Newly engaged couple Ben and Carmen are in the early stages of figuring out the details of their wedding.

Their dilemma is simple - they want a big, all inclusive wedding so that they can invite all their friends and family and not worry about having to limit the number of friends who can celebrate with them.

They’ve found a place which would cater for the crowd, within the budget.

It’s a fair way out of town, and it’s a bit daggy, but they don’t care.

Carmen’s parents on the other hand, want a wedding with better food in a nicer venue.

But that means less people would be able to go.

Both options would cost the same, but Carmen’s parents are contributing financially, and they want a say.

Who should determine the format of the day? The couple getting married? Or whoever happens to be paying?