Angela’s got a parenting dilemma. And I suspect it’s not an uncommon one. She and her husband have very strong beliefs about how they want to raise their children – from the values they instill, to the way they discipline, and the kind of atmosphere they set in their home.

Angela’s parents in-law don’t have exactly the same values. In particular, Angela is concerned about the tone they use when correcting the children. She feels they speak down to them and can be quite negative and hurtful. She’s spoken to her in-laws about it, but still finds it hard to trust them in this.

Angela’s children are primary school age. She wants them to grow up having a good relationship with their grandparents, but she also wants to protect them – she fears that what she’s teaching them may be challenged or undone.

• Having already spoken to the in-laws, should she now have some even stronger words with them and risk causing family tensions?

• Should she stop allowing them to stay with their grandparents altogether?

• Or, is she being too protective and wrapping the kids in cotton wool? Maybe she should trust the grandparents more - clearly they don’t mean any harm, they’re really just stricter in the way they correct little ones.

• Are you a parent and if so, what do you do, when it comes to leaving your kids with the rellies? How do you uphold your values, while still keeping the doors open for healthy relationships with the extended family?

• Do you let your parents discipline the kids or not?